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Essentials
- Fundamentals
- 5 Myths - Swinggcat
Myths Preventing Men From Attracting Women...
Myth #1: Being an Attractive Man Is Always About Appealing To What Women Say They Want.
If you are one of those vehement supporters of this myth, you should get a noose and hang yourself - you'll be better off.
- That One Special Girl - Giuseppe Notte
Be honest. It has happened to all of us. There was this girl... A girl you might have never even talked to... But still... You couldn't help but think about her all day...
And the more you thought about her, the less courage you had to go up to her and invite her for a get-together.
- The Women You Always Wanted - Giuseppe Notte
Guys who have lower self confidence when it comes to women like to think that they don't "deserve" to get the kind of women they want deeply inside. Well, if you belong to this group I have good news for you. Just keep reading!
I usually put women into 3 categories: in the first there are ugly or average looking girls.
- People Skills And Basic Attractiveness - A Foundation To Doing Well With Women - Chris
There are a few general areas you need to get handled before you can do okay with women:
You need some idea of how to actually get girls (what to do, what works, what doesn't, etc.)
You need to have the guts to do certain things (go talk to them, make a 'move', etc.)
- The Secret of Getting More Beautiful Women than the Rich, Wealthy, and Powerful - Derek Vitalio
Our education system, study skills, and ideological training reflect that we live in a capitalist society.
School largely teaches us to be obedient, have discipline, follow authority figures, and how to read, write, memorization skills, and math.
- Inner Game
- Using The Pain Or Pleasure Principle To Attract Women - Teddy Shabba
The difference in the results that men have when it comes to attracting women, is men who attract women behave differently than men who have no idea and little or no success attracting women.
Yet, making the changes necessary in order to become the man who attracts women for many men doesn't happen.
- Alpha Attitudes - Unkown
If you SET up the FRAME that she is ALREADY attracted to you, and act in every way congruent with that frame, then it almost becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.
Watch your thoughts, they become your words;
Watch your words, they become your actions;
Watch your actions, for they become your deeds;
Watch your deeds, they become your character;
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny!
- Getting Beat By A Girl - Scott McKay
There's a lot of talk about "approach anxiety", and for good reason. It has been optimistically estimated that over 80% of all men are terrified of approaching attractive women they have ever met. And let's face it: without overcoming this fear it's all but impossible for a man to experience any success whatsoever in meeting great women, let alone attracting and keeping them.
- Outer Game
- Supreme Storytelling - Heartwork
Today I want to talk to you about a subject that can be very important and powerful when it comes to meeting and holding the interest of not only women but anyone in your life. This subject is none other than Storytelling and when used correctly, can make your desirability with women sky rocket. Before I jump into the tips and secrets behind successful story telling and how to construct a powerful story, I want to clear up a few myths when it comes to the matter of story telling.
- Story Theory - Wilder
Telling stories to a group of people is one of the best ways to generate attraction in pick-up when done correctly.
What follows are several things to consider when choosing and crafting stories for use in the FIELD during attraction phases. They're more guidelines than hard and fast rules, as you can break most of them when you know what you're doing.
- The Transition To Natural Game - Woodhaven
I've met my share of brothers from the community. After sarging with them and watching them in the FIELD, I have seen the same exact things over and over. They all run nearly the exact type of game, and have the same problems. I am not criticizing other people's models, I am just providing a analysis of the EFFECT that these models are having on the bulk of the people I meet.
- Rewriting The Rules - Imperfect
What Matters and What Doesn’t-
How come it seems like the more some guys learn, the worse off they are with women?
Why is it that some of the nights when you are doing so well, you aren’t even thinking about all the stuff, like delivery and FRAME control, that is supposed to matter?
- How To Tell If She's Interested - David DeAngelo
OK, I have a quick trick question for you.
That's right, I said a quick TRICK question.
How can you tell if a woman is interested in you?
Answer quickly.
So what gives?
Why am I asking you a trick question?
- Social Skills
- How To Rapidly Build Social Value - Derek Vitalio
Before you get to the Bond and Connection phase with a girl, you first need to build social value for yourself. Without enough social value, she won't reciprocate the connection and think you're just another "nice guy" trying to get into her pants.
A great way to build that social value is through planned stories and routines.
- How To REALLY Win Friends and Influence People - Derek Vitalio
There's a popular belief that you need to have a certain approach to have any success. Like for instance, you have to be extroverted and entertaining to get the ladies. It just ain't so - the ONLY thing that matters is your relaxed CONFIDENCE and the way you PROJECT that confidence, using your body. After that, it's just a matter of picking your own style.
- Social Vibing - Tyler Durden
To me, this is a very important post.
Social Intelligence. Having struggled so hard to learn it, I have so much to say on this topic. In this post I'd like to specifically discuss social vibing and insecurity (a very focused, but important peice of the puzzle).
- Vibing Framework - Jon King
It seems there are a number of factors that will typically enable an individual to carry on a seemingly endless, engaging, and effortless conversation.
However, when I look back on my experiences, both within mASF and pre, the biggest area within which I think most can improve towards this capability is vibing – ie. knowing which questions to ask, when to ask them, and how to ground and share your own personality and experiences in doing so – on any topic a conversation might lead to.
- If you can't shag 'em, befriend 'em - Unkown
In addition to making friends with 5 guys who are good at meeting women, you want to make friends with at least 3 very attractive women. Attractive, as in, attractive to YOU! One of the major concepts David D introduced, and this was something I’ve been hearing from Swinggcat for the past year, was that in addition to making friends with 5 guys who are good at meeting women, you want to make friends with at least 3 very attractive women.
- How To Get A Social Life - Chris
Getting a social life isn't all that hard. The problem is that most people make and keep friends without really thinking about how they do it.
They just picked up the skills automatically as they grew up. If you've always been more of the shy, loner type than you'll probably appreciate some pointers.
Pretty much anyone can have a group of friends if they want to. Here are some things you may want to get covered first though to make things easier:
- Complete Guide To Vibing - Spirit Fingers
Vibing is commonly thought of in the community as “FLUFF talk,” or just filler in between your routines. Even by people who run completely spontaneous game, there’s never been an in-depth breakdown of vibing.
In this post, I will cover:
- Nonverbal Communication
- It's Not WHAT You Say It's HOW You Say It - Derek Vitalio
I want you to think for a moment, what turns you on? What makes you horny? What makes you randy baby, yeah!
Chances are, you're thinking to yourself something like "I'm a legs man" or "I like blondes" or something else you wouldn't want your momma to read.
That's alright. It's not that men are dogs, it's that men are VISUAL. For most men, it is what we SEE that initially triggers attraction. It's not the be-all and end-all, but it dominates our first impressions.
- The Subtle Dance Of A First Dance - Sean Newman
Often, people talk about mastering your own body language, however Physical Confidence is also about understanding the body language women are exhibiting toward you. What is it when the woman exhibits these signs of interest and attraction toward the man? Sometimes they are subtle. Do you trust your intuition and know what to look for?
- Guys: Body Language Basics For Seducing Women
Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried out over 50% of your communication comes from your body language - what you DON'T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.
What does this mean to you?
- Sexuality
Playing The Field
- Approaching and Meeting Women
- Props for Meeting Women - Matthew Whiting
This is probably the most known but least understood method for seduction. There are many ways that using a prop can backfire, making you look strange or just creepy. But when the technique works, you have an instant "in" with a woman you might otherwise not have had the opportunity to talk to.
- Opening the Most Beautiful of Women - Derek Vitalio
Picture this: you are out, say at a grocery store, and a beautiful woman walks down your aisle. I mean a stunner. The kind of woman who inspires sonnets and starts wars.
And she doesn't notice you. She's just shopping.
- Attraction
- How to Get a Girl to Like You - John Alexander
We've all had that special woman in our lives. You know... the one with the sweet personality, the really nice hair and a perfect face. She dates the more "adept" guys... but how can you get her to like you?
While men are primarily attracted to women based on their looks, a woman finds a man attractive because of his personality.
- 25 Signs A Woman May Be Intereste In You - Marius Panzarella
Here are a few signs that a woman may be interested in you.
1) You catch her checking you out.
2) Her eyes sparkles when you talk to her.
3) She strokes her outer thigh lightly when you talk to her.
- The Bad Boy Image - Derek Vitalio
Clean is good; squeaky clean, not so much. Sometimes you'll want to have an edge to your personality. Some of the times you're MOST attractive is when you've got a hangover and just don't give a damn. Capture that spirit, full of sarcasm and edge, and you can be the Motley Crue bad boy dating the Pam Anderson's of the world - without all the baggage those bad boys usually bring to the table.
- Comfort and Rapport
- Confident Raport - Dreamweaver
The majority of theories on how to pick up girls were compiled by guys who had problems with women and tried to get better. Therein lies the very nature of the problems with most theory. They all assume that you, going over to the girl, have less value then her. By assuming this, you're forced to play a role of lower value. Why on earth are you assuming you are worth less then the girl? I don't care how hot she is!
- Comfort Builders - Sailing Addict
Some rough ideas for building comfort...
1. Point out your own vulnerabilities, like “I am a total idiot when it comes to reading maps. If it weren’t for Yahoo directions, I wouldn’t be able to make it to Starbucks across the street.”
- Seduction
- Using Your Social Value For Seduction Success - Derek Vitalio
Has this ever happened to you?
You attempt to get a girl's phone number and she's evasive about it.
Or if she gives it to you, when you do call her she doesn't pickup the phone.
And if you do get in touch with her, she's too busy to meet up with you.
- How To Seduce Women Using 'Deflection Theory' - Tiffany Taylor
There's something that often happens when you're out playing the 'seduction game' - that is, when you're actively looking out for girls you think you'd like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the game. It usually goes something like this: you're in a group, talking to a couple of girls. You're with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or at a party. You've got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want to make something happen, make a bit of a connection.
- Seducing Women on Vacation - Matthew Whiting
When is the last time you took a vacation? It might be just what you need!
Seducing Women on Vacation
It's a simple fact that people are more spontaneous on vacation.
- Using Your Mind for Seduction - Derek Vitalio
Nothing can replace actually going out there and doing something. Nothing. That said, a LOT of learning CAN be done from. well, anywhere. If you can create a realistic world within your head, you can practice all sorts of scenarios, hone your skills, and learn what will work and what won't. Think of it as your own private holodeck. Just don't talk about it that way. Ever.
- Online Dating
- NLP and Hypnosis
- Warmth Builder - Bishop
Hold the babe's hand with her palm UP.
Put your index finger in the center of her palm, and tell her to focus on the warmth in that spot your finger is on.
Then tell her to imagine a shape (any shape she wants and she is not to tell you what shape she chooses ) **
Next tell her imagine that shape is sloooowly....riiising....up from that spot of warmth. (raise you index finger up to prompt her to raise her shape)
- The Ruby Butter Fly - Bishop
This is a cool poem by Bishop, it could be useful to you, depending the situation.
Types Of Game
- Bars and Clubs
- How To Stand Out In A Night Club - Marius Panzarella
Here are a few ways to stand out from the rest of the crowd in a nightclub:
1) Dress outrageously - dress just a tiny bit different than the rest of the crowd. Crazy hats, tall boots, shiny shirts, or even have a glow in the dark necklace hanging down on your neck. Don't be afraid to be a just little bit tacky. The key is to bring attention to yourself.
- Importance Of A Good WingMan - Michael The Dating Wizard
Man, you have no idea how much I treasure my wingman.
Do I do pickup alone?
Yes, often.
But having a wingman is FUN . And a wingman is not just the guy who is actually out with you talking to the girl's friends while you chat her up; he is the guy that EXUDES POSITIVE SOCIAL PRESSURE on you.
- Importance Of Going To Bars and Clubs To Attract Women - Michael The Dating Wizard
Clubs are not the end all and be all.
Really!
In fact, I've noticed that in general, the women who ARE attractive in clubs tend to have a higher rate of drinking and smoking than the women who are attractive that you meet randomly in places like the library, the bookstore, the café, etc.
- College Game
- Your Rise To Pimpness - Mark Redman
On your rise to super-pimpness you're going to figure something out VERY quickly. And that is...
*****OTHER GUYS ARE GOING TO TRY TO KEEP YOU DOWN****
- Dealing with Other Guys - Mark Redman
Hey guys, one thing I want to discuss in more depth because we left it out when we talked: dealing with other dudes. I want to put down a few thoughts here, we can expand in more depth later.
- Your Reality. Your World. Your Lifestyle. - Mark Redman
What I’m going to talk to you about in this article is something that I expand on hugely in my Conquer Your Campus Training Manual. It makes all the difference in the world, but chances are, it’s something you haven’t given much thought to.
What’s that?
- How To Have Your Best Night Ever...TONIGHT - Mark Redman
I continue to be BLOWN AWAY by the love that all you guys are showing. It’s incredible, really, I never could have expected something like this and I'm psyched to know that my Truth About College Game report is connecting with you.
Now, I've had a few guys write to me with one major question: “What can i do THIS WEEKEND to take my game to the next level?”
- A Simple Technique That Will Instantly Kick Your Game Up A Notch - Mark Redman
Long fucking day at the office and then like 3 hours on the phone afterwards but I’m back now with some stuff that you’re going to want to start implementing the next time you talk to a girl. And I’ve got some mega-hot news. (did I really just say ‘mega-hot’…oh man..I need some sleep…)
- These 3 Silent Killers Could be DESTROYING Your Game - Mark Redman
So awhile ago, when I was getting into this whole community, my friend/mentor Christian Hudson and I recorded a free interview (its no longer available, don't ask). We shot the shit for awhile, and also spent a lot of time talking about how to meet freshmen
- How to Turn a Friend into a Fuck Buddy - Mark Redman
Today, I want to write about something that a LOT of people asked for more detail about - how to turn a friend into a fuck buddy. I talk about it in my report but I guess I didn’t go into enough depth so here we go…
- How to become the King of Your College - Badboy
This is something that’s been tested and proved as pure GOLD. This works only if you are going to a new college, where the majority of people don’t already know one another. There’s no need to have some crazy PU or social skills to do this, everybody can do it, and it’s so simple. It’s a natural human process that you can use to improve your social life.
When young people come to college, most of them don’t know each other, so sooner or later they will need to make friends, or join an already established group. Usually it takes a few weeks till those friendship circles are formed. So after a few weeks, you will see many circles with 5 to 10 members in each group.
Field Reports
- Field Reports
- My First Threesome - Jekyll
Dual Induction Massage my hairy white ass.
Ironic, really. I'd just spent the morning monkeying around Edinburgh, and I'd bought a book on philosophy and a new copy of Neil Strauss's The Game, having given my original away as a present to a clueless chum. It was still early afternoon, so I dropped in to a pub I used to work at on Edinburgh's Royal Mile. I bumped into a friend of mine, Richard, who is a natural player of real talent and panache, and we sat outside at a table, smoking cigarettes, drinking beer and shooting the shit.
- You‘re a celebrity? Neat, let's fuck - Dimintri
If a woman tells you she's 26 and looks 26... she's damn near 40." -Chris Rock, "No Sex in the Champagne Room"
Very true. Last night, HBWhitestilettos turned out to be 40. Eh, I don't practice age-based discrimination.
Alright, from the top:
Yesterday afternoon, I have some free time, ring up HBWhitestilettos.
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